Life Adjustments

Perhaps the word "adjustments" will make me less apprehensive about what they really are... CHANGES. No one really likes change, especially when that change goes against the very fiber of their being. But then, the only thing constant in life is change, is it not?

Surrounding me, a 30+ year marriage dissolves, a 7 year relationship destroyed, and individuals cheating left and right. I don't even want to mention it, but suppose I must - people lying to deceive and perhaps unintentionally but destroying lives - Catfish. I think the show in itself is most likely fake, but I know that it happens all the time unfortunately. How then do quiet individuals who don't want to meet people in clubs, meet other people?

For instance, a single gal such as myself, I don't go to nightclubs or party because I don't think that's where I will find quality individuals to share my life with, and I have seen nothing to the contrary. I am entering the workforce in a woman dominated career and understand that my chances of meeting a potentially partner in the workplace is rather unlikely. Most of my friends are not dating quality individuals or are dating individuals with whom I am not finding in line with the goals I have set for myself. It's not like any of them have brothers or friends of their significant others who they could even set me up with for a date. Online dating seems a plausible option since it may be the only way to meet potential suitors with whom I could hopefully share my life, goals, and passions.

Another example. After being "off the market" and "out of the game" for 7 years, how does one approach dating in 2013? As a quiet individual, one who was surrounded herself with only a few school friends, her family, and her boyfriend - how do you go about seeking a new partner? While I understand the break up is fresh and new, it will become an issue, and one that as a friend, I am unsure of how to advise on the subject overall.

After a marriage dissolves, one in which the children are grown and the paperwork should hopefully be simple, does one even approach dating again? Are older folks destined to spend their old age alone when a spouse decides they want out of marriage?

While life changes and adjustments can be difficult, how do you approach them?